I just found out today that my SS is coming to stay for a few days next month. I have very mixed emotions about this as I am sure you can imagine. It’ll be great to see him again but I have reservations because the house is the worst it’s ever been.
The SS’s room
The SS’s room is where all my SO’s mother’s stuff was before a pipe in the wall sprung a leak. My SD and I had to remove almost everything from that room in order to remove wet carpet padding and salvage the carpet.
At this time the leak is fixed thanks to my SD but the tools and other materials are still scattered all over the floor in my SS’s room. The mattress and base that got moved into the laundry is still in the laundry. The family room looks like a bomb exploded in it.
I know my SO is going to want me to make the house look like it’s not the home of a hoarder. While there is much I can do to improve things I simply cannot make it look ‘normal’ no matter how hard I work. The only way that could happen would be if we got a dumpster, got rid of all trashy items, gave away/donated all other items and then organized what was left. You and I both know that is not going to happen.
Didn’t react well
My reaction to the news of my SS’s impending visit well ‘threw me for a loop’ and I didn’t react well. It’s not that I don’t want him here. My SS is still very upset that his childhood was so negatively impacted by all the mess in this house. I know it will be disappointing to him to see that things have deteriorated somewhat since he was last here. I also know there is very little I can do to prevent him feeling saddened and angry at the shit pit this house has become recently.
Facing the facts
Now I’ve calmed down I know there is much I can do to make things better before he arrives. I’m excited at the prospect of having him here but I know I have a lot to do before then. I won’t be able to fix everything but I will prioritize and work on those things that I can fix. I absolutely will put some significant effort into getting the house looking as best as I am capable.
The yard needs work
With the weather being so dry and hot it is all I can do to stay cool in the office. The yard desperately needs work done on it but I’m not sure that I can do it all. I am hoping that the SO will hire some guys to clean it up before the SS arrives. The front is incredibly dry and the back is overrun with weeds, with the trees/bushes all needing serious trimming. It is more than I can handle alone. The heat makes it almost impossible for me to work outside during the day.